DUBLIN â I love video games, but I am also well aware of their potential problems. Hours can easily disappear when youâre gaming, and too much gaming late at night means broken sleep (at least, for me). As an adult, Iâm mostly able to manage my own gaming habits to make sure that playing doesnât interfere with my work or my health. Things get a lot trickier when the gamer in question is a child. Many parents are struggling to manage their childrenâs video gaming behaviour, and worrying about the possible consequences if they donât do a good job. For what itâs worth, I grew up with video games and so did my younger brothers, and we all made it to adulthood more or less unscathed. So, if your child is spending hours slaughtering the opposition in Overwatch, try not to worry too much. With some smart management strategies, your kid will probably turn out OK too. – Felicity Duncan
Why video games trigger the nightly meltdown – and how to help your child cope
By Julie Jargon
Every night, parents around the globe fight a battle of wills when they tell their kids to power down their game consoles to do homework, eat dinner or go to bed. The directive is usually met with some serious side-eye and whining.
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In some cases, children yell, throw tantrums or slam doors. No one likes to be forced to stop having fun, but something unique appears to be going on here – you donât hear much about kids having epic meltdowns when theyâre told to stop playing with Legos.
So whatâs happening in that moment, the forced transition from game play to real life?
Children and adolescents donât yet have the capability to stop doing a rewarding activity and move on to something less fun, neurologists say. That doesnât mean a child is addicted to video games. Although experts say children with depression and anxiety are more prone to immerse themselves in games as a coping mechanism, itâs just generally hard for most kids to stop. There are ways for parents to hack this problem, but first they have to understand their kidsâ minds.
âWhatâs happening in our brains is that there are systems that evolved to sustain our interest. It will lead you to seek food for days until you find it, and thatâs followed by satiety,â said Nora Volkow, director of the National Institute on Drug Abuse at the National Institutes of Health, who has studied similarities between the effects of gaming and substance abuse.
Pulling the plug in the middle of a video game – before a child has had the chance to feel satisfied by completing a level or mission – is a bit like yanking a half-eaten doughnut out of someoneâs hand.
The anticipation of playing video games results in a roughly 75% boost to baseline dopamine levels in the brain, according to Chris Ferguson, a psychology professor at Stetson University in DeLand, Fla., who has analysed studies on gaming. Thatâs far less than the boost associated with doing hard drugs, according to data from the National Institute on Drug Abuse, but itâs not much higher than the boost that comes from that doughnut.
Eating the doughnut is a finite act, however. Video game makers build in a stream of intermittent rewards to keep people playing. In some games, thereâs no real end or it can take hours to achieve.
A 1998 study involving adult gamers found that dopamine release correlated to how the players progressed – the better they got and the more difficult the challenges became, the more dopamine was released, said the studyâs author, Matthias Koepp, now a neurology professor at the University College London Queen Square Institute of Neurology.
Accurately measuring dopamine in the brain is a challenge, and can involve injections of radioactive materials that can be tracked on a PET scan. Thatâs why there havenât been many studies – and none performed on children.
While adults have the reasoning ability to override the dopamine rush and move on to other, more important tasks, kids do not, neurologists say. The brainâs prefrontal cortex – the part of the brain involved in making decisions and controlling impulses – isnât fully developed until age 25.
Amirah Counts, a single mom in Boulder, Colo., struggles most nights to get her 7-year-old son to stop playing âWorld of Warcraft.â
âOn a good day, he gets home from school and the rule is to do homework first, but as soon as heâs done, he wants to play video games. If I tell him no, heâll just sit there and not do anything. Itâs like he doesnât have the capacity to entertain himself,â she said. âA bad night is when we just come home and Iâm so exhausted I let him play video games until bedtime and then heâs livid when itâs time for bed.â
âThere is no intrinsic reason a child should stop playing on his own, unless there is a more rewarding experience available at that moment,â said Marc Palaus, who reviewed more than 100 papers on the neural and behavioural effects of video gaming while working on a PhD in cognitive neuroscience at the Open University of Catalonia.
When Chris Fullerâs son was in sixth grade, he would plow through his homework so he could play âFortnite,â the popular Internet game where a hundred players battle to be the last one standing. The boyâs homework quality and grades began to slip. âWhat drove me to complete madness was heâd turn off one device and go to another. He would get off âFortniteâ and come upstairs with us and get on his phone to watch YouTube videos about âFortnite,ââ said Mr. Fuller, a public relations executive in Alpharetta, Ga.
He and his wife stopped allowing their son to play video games on weeknights when he started 7th grade last fall and Mr. Fuller said thatâs resulted in better-quality homework and an improvement in grades. But on weekends, their son, now 13, has moved on to âOverwatch,â another online multiplayer game he has a hard time shutting off.
âI recently heard something at 5am and went downstairs and found him playing,â Mr. Fuller said.
Experts say most kids who play video games are not at risk of developing a serious problem such as âgaming disorder,â which the World Health Organisation says is a pattern of behaviour characterised by âimpaired control over gaming, increasing priority given to gaming over other activities⌠and continuation or escalation of gaming despite the occurrence of negative consequences.â The frequency or duration of game-playing alone doesnât equate to having a disorder. Only less than 1% of gamers qualify for such a diagnosis, experts say.
Some experts, including the leadership of the American Psychiatric Association, say thereâs not enough evidence yet to even declare gaming addiction a unique disorder.
Rather than worrying about whether or not your kids are addicted to gaming, psychologists suggest figuring out whether they use video games to cope with depression, anxiety or stress. A 2017 study found that adolescents who played video games four or more hours a day for six or seven days a week showed more depressive symptoms than those who played less often.
What you – and your child – can do
Even when an underlying mental-health issue is not at play, many parents face surly kids when itâs game-over time. So how can you manage the nightly battle?
*Institute rules around game play –Â and follow them consistently.âDonât let yourself fall into these traps, like, âWell, he didnât play last week so we let him play an extra three hours this week,ââ said Michael Milham, vice president of research and founding director of the Centre for the Developing Brain at the Child Mind Institute.
Some experts advise parents to warn kids about 20 minutes before itâs time to shut down so they know what to expect and donât begin a new level or mission. Dr. Milham suggests not letting kids play video games right up until bedtime, because some have trouble settling down to sleep.
*Give your children a role in creating the rules. Susan Groner, a parenting coach and author, said children are more invested in following guidelines when they have a hand in developing them. If you and your child can come to an agreement on when video games can be played and for how long, you can try it for a week and then revise if itâs not working. She also suggests having kids set a timer so they can monitor their own game-playing.
*Itâs never too late to establish rules. A few weeks ago, Ms. Counts decided to do a âdetoxâ with her son. In a written agreement, he said heâd try to whittle down game-playing to an hour a day and that the two would do more activities together, including reading books. While they havenât reached their goal yet, she said itâs helped by giving her son something else to look forward to.
*If a serious problem develops, seek treatment for a possible underlying condition. Chris Ferguson, the Stetson University professor, said concerned parents should seek treatment from professionals who specialise in kids and teens.
âI would not take kids to a place that specialises in gaming addiction. A lot of them are capitalising on this moral panic and they donât have empirically valid treatments. They may treat the gaming addiction and give you your depressed kid back,â he said.
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